Tuesday, July 28, 2020

Not To The Finish Line Yet


I hate to be a downer, but yesterday was a disaster. On the positive side, the painters finished and the house is spectacular. My painter surprised me with a stunning silk damask finish in tandoori on the column in the guest bath. The countertops go in this afternoon.

On the negative side, GG informed he will threaten the movers when they arrive tomorrow that they are trespassing and he will call the police to have them removed from the property. According to him, I am not allowed to remove my belongings. Could this be any crazier?  Keep me in your thoughts as I navigate this totally insane situation.

I worked 18 hours straight yesterday moving and have not eaten or slept in days. I just need to get through the next 24 hours. And then get a restraining order. This is pure insanity. I will save more details for when I am safe. Send positive energy my way - I am drained.

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  1. True insanity,keep your head high,the hours of this torture are ticking away. The restraining order is a good idea,this behavior is not safe. Prayers surround you. You got this!

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  2. Beth, I know that you will be strong and smart and brave. But I will be thinking of you and sending all of the positive energy I can muster.

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  3. Sending positive energy your way. You can make it! You are not alone. We are all pulling with you!

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  4. Oh boy. The joys of GG are never-ending! Here's to hoping he will not want to make a scene in his neighborhood with police and interfering with the movers. Threats only, I am hoping.

    Be strong and hold your ground. Your focus on the new house is unwavering. GG will be in the rear view mirror soon. Don't forget to breathe!

    Thank goodness for the fabulously skilled and caring painters!

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  5. Wishing you all the best for the move and that all the craziness stops. I am so sorry you are going through this nightmare.

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  6. Saying a prayer that all goes well tomorrow. The police will listen to both sides if called, so I wouldn't worry.

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  7. Sending you strength and positivity.

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  8. He is too much. So glad that you are almost done with him. Call the police today and ask if they can intervene tomorrow so you can move out. Let them supervise GG if needed so you can have the upper hand. Thank goodness you are moving into a gated community!

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    1. I second that emotion, Legal Lioness! Beth, right on for the RO.Can someone stay with you at the Sarasota house tonight?

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    2. I 💯 agree. His behavior is scary and irrational. Don’t put yourself and your movers at risk. Get the police involved.

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    3. My thoughts exactly. YOU call the police first and maybe get a restraining order!

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  9. Sending postive thoughts and prayers your way. Stay safe, strong and be very careful. You will get through this!

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  10. Oh my goodness, sending you positive vibes. You will get through this - smile, breath and go slowly. (((hugs)))
    Men!!!

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  11. You’ve got this! Sending you positive thoughts and prayers that you stay safe and accomplish your move! This will be over with soon..

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  12. You can do this!

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  13. Oh gosh, sending you prayers!....you will be stronger after all this is over.

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  14. I will be thinking about you and sending positive thoughts until you are safely in your new home.

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  15. Praying for protection and peace in your life.

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  16. I am so sorry to hear this. Please be careful and safe. Is there anyway you could contact the local police for assistance? Either way, sending loads of positive vibes and protection your way.

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  17. Protection works for both sides. Call the police, explain the situation, and ask for protection so you can safely remove your belongings. People like this try to intimidate others through threats and bluster. Trust your gut, take measures to protect yourself, your pups, and your belongings. You will get through this. Sending positive thoughts and prayers to you. Remember to take care of yourself.

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  18. I totally agree with Legal Lioness. Call Police and ask them if they can be there while you move out. The move itself won't take long, you have already done most of it.
    I would call the moving company so they won't be blindsided by this. I am sure they have seen this before and may have some insight as how to handle the situation as well.
    Good luck. Deep breaths. You've got this!

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  19. I second design doctor’s advice!!! Ounce of prevention...

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  20. I hope you have already moved your doggies

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  21. One more day to get through, and you will. Look how far you've come already!

    So many of us are sending prayers and good vibes and pulling for you.

    You. Will. Be. Ok.

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  22. Beth, so sorry you are going through the crazies with GG. I agree with the others, while leaving my controlling (lawyer) ex, I had to a) have others present to safely remove my things and in the end sadly b) the police were called because he became “difficult” about the removal of several of my pieces. The police dispatched to handle the situation were very helpful, allowing me to leave with my things with dignity. I do hope you have friends or neighbors who can be by your side moving day? And congratulations on your bathroom completion! I can’t wait to see pictures of your lovely new sanctuary :)

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  23. The DesignDoctor is right. Let the police or someone know that you are being threatened. So sorry you have to go through this. Try to stay positive, wish there was something we could do for you. Take good care.

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  24. Beth the Social Worker in me has my mind a buzz. I would suggest going to the police today to explain situation. Find out what to expect if he does call the police. I do not know your rights so you need to be on top of that. I suspect you have already obtained that information. I would not be surprised while you are gone today that he will change the locks so you can't get in the house when you return or ask you to leave today. You may want to consider packing an overnight bag for you and the dogs to stay elsewhere tonight. May want to give movers a heads up about may transpire tomorrow. If he calls police it will only make him look like a fool in the neighborhood. You moving out has hurt his big ego. This is about power and having the last word. Want you to know you are in my prayers.

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    1. Laura, I hope nameless DOES change the locks, I'm for ANYthing it takes to prevent Beth from sleeping there one more night. She has probably lost 15 to 20 pounds and dangerously close to dehydration; she is abused, battered, threatened, extorted and has now had the stakes raised on an already explosive situation by an armed ultimatum. I'm about to jump in my car from North Florida and go find her, and get her a cheeseburger and milkshake. So, so concerned.

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  25. Call the police. Copy your pictures of your belongings. No one can keep you from your things. Good luck!Denise

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  26. Oh no!! God Bless you and keep you safe. Would you considering calling the police yourself and beat him to the punch? It's almost over xo Cathy in CT

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  27. I was thinking something like this might happen when you mentioned the letter. I agree with one of the other commenters. Contact the police proactively and explain the situation.

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  28. It's pretty crazy. Please be careful and stay safe.

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  29. Thinking of you today and hoping you are safe. I can see how the joy of your new home is tempered by your current situation. Take care.

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  30. Bring a friend to video you moving your things out.

    Drink plenty of water, take your multi vitamin, extra c, d3, magnesium, B12, zinc. Good for stress, and covid !!

    You are loved and this is the plan for your life, getting to next chapter. Best yet.

    God doesn't promise to keep trouble away, but to be with you in the trouble.

    Cannot wait for your next chapter to blossom fully !!

    Good advice already given to other layers. Love............always love. Don't stop being fully you, no matter what happens. Unless you decide to be more you !!

    Garden & Be Well, XO T

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  31. It's your things, you have a legal right to get them. Happened to me in college, I had to call the cops right before the movers got there and they took care of the issue. I was able to get my things out without any issues.

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  32. Praying for your safety and wisdom as you weather this storm. Just like the storm on 75, cry out and Help will be there.
    Blessings,
    Michelle

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  33. I never comment on anyone’s post. And, I can’t say that I have followed your situation, but it doesn’t sound good-or safe. Please call the police, Beth. And, don’t worry for a second what his colleagues, friends, family or anyone else thinks. He is threatening you. Make sure you have someone with you at all times.

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  34. Beth, I'm so sorry you're going through this. CG sounds like a complete nut job! I agree with everyone else's suggestion to call the police today. Stay safe; this will be over soon.

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  35. OMG! How long have you been together?
    Maybe you should get the restraining order in place now?
    Sending blessings to you and your pups!
    Be careful and stay safe!

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  36. What a jerk this guy is. He's bluffing & bullying you. Does he forget that you're an attorney? Dont worry about him. Soon it will be Wed, moving day & he cant prevent you from moving your property. Ef him. I loathe bullies. You will be fine. And he'll be cowering in a corner. 💚

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  37. Call the police- NOW and have someone with you at all times,
    Do not let this man intimidate you- he is on a power trip.
    Stay safe, and enjoy your new home which will be free of his bad vibes. This a great reminder to single ladies out there- alone can be better

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  38. Beth, I have meant to write so many times to let you know how much I have loved following your blog. I have taken many beautiful ideas from you that have helped "feather" my nest. I even think we shopped at the same HomeGoods (I live near the stone bridge) and many of your other old local haunts. I am sending you lots of positive energy and hope you get through tomorrow with support from people there who can help you - reach out for the help you need.

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  39. Sending good vibes your way!

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  40. I'm so sorry...VIDEO tape everything....that will be your ace in the hole. Even video the stupid unhelpful police officers...video their response...when people know they are being filmed their behavior often changes because they will know they have to be accountable for their actions...even GG or CG whatever his name is. If this goes to court and you can show your ex acting like a lunatic and the police being jerks...this can only work in your favor

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  41. I somehow missed the lead in to the horror that is GG. I have followed your blog forever, loving every moment, but have never commented. Today's post triggered me to respond with a word of caution. I along with all of your followers wish you safety, yet the suggestions of the restraining order are unwittingly ill informed. Ditto for video recording, this is definitely a red blanket for psychos.

    Please reconsider the restraining order as research reveals that its filing is positively correlated with escalation and homicide. I am linking a short report below that is filled with research links for you and my fellow followers of your blog. My divorce lawyer shared this warning with me when I was advised to file a RO here in Tampa seven years ago. I did the research then and was appalled.

    I am an educator so this troubled me doubly as the filing is entered into BOTH of your public records and follows you. This meant, for me, that potential employers would see that I was connected to a source of danger for students in the event that stalking followed me to campus. This also meant that I would be turned away as a renter for the same reason. I am not as together as you are enough to purchase my own home. The trauma of my situation for which I needed an exit plan sought paid to that possibility.

    I would hate to have you lulled into false security by a process and document that holds great potential to negatively impact the filer/victim. In addition, the demeanor of the first set of first responders who ridiculed you and called your pups furniture, is unfortunately more of the norm here in FL.

    Just a consideration. Here is the link: https://www.mcw.edu/-/media/MCW/Departments/Risk-Management/Restraining-Orders-in-Healthcare.pdf?la=en

    So pleased to hear you are safe now. Take good care.

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